Finding the right therapist is a brave and vulnerable process that, like any great relationship, takes patience, trust and understanding to build. That being said, the process of looking for the right therapist can be daunting. Having a framework of what questions to ask can help guide you throughout the process so that you keep important considerations that matter to you and your progress in mind throughout your search.
Questions to Ask:
- What is your therapeutic framework and how do you structure the therapeutic setting?
Your therapists’ framework reflects not only their therapeutic orientation, but also, their approach to address your needs. Bring up what specific issues bring you to therapy in a general way and describe what you’re looking for (it’s okay if you don’t know, but discuss this too, so you can make sure you’re find a therapist who asks the right questions for you).
- What are the most important values to you in therapy?
Our values reflect our inner world and the meaning we make of our lives, so it makes sense that finding a therapist who shares similar values is important. Mention what matters to you most in your life and ask a bit about what your therapist values too. Seeing a glimpse of this can give you a greater sense of whether your therapist may be a natural fit.
- If I feel stuck or things feel unproductive, how will we approach roadblocks?
Just like with any other realms of our lives, it’s natural to experience roadblocks in therapy, particularly when facing emotional triggers or revisiting trauma. The difficulties in our lives are often mirrored back in therapy, which can be uncomfortable at times and difficult to sit with. Talk to your therapist about what your triggers are, how you’d like to approach exploring roadblocks and, most importantly, what makes you feel comfortable.
- How do you enhance therapeutic work between sessions for your clients?
Some people LOVE reading books, completing worksheets and enhancing their therapeutic work between sessions with concrete tools—others don’t. Think about what may work best for you and don’t be afraid to ask your therapist about what supports would help guide your therapeutic process. Whether it’s support groups, psychoeducation tools, yoga or using a workbook, consider how this can enhance your therapeutic work.
Allow yourself to reflect on other questions as well. Tell your therapist what brings you to therapy and what immediate support would look like. Consider speaking with at least 2-3 therapists before making a decision and don’t be afraid to follow your gut throughout the process. There are a lot of wonderful therapists in the Lakewood areas, as well as in Denver, so make sure to take the time to find someone who is a great fit for your needs.
I wish you luck in your therapeutic search and would love the opportunity to speak with you more and provide additional resources!
Be well & stay kind!
Delia Berinde, MS, LPCC
Looking Forward Counseling, PLLC
Lakewood, Colorado